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You are focused on the future and the past, rather than the present.In your daily thoughts, are you dwelling on past failures, or how things could have been.  you could have been somebody, you...\u003c/span\u003e\n\u003cspan class='full-description hide'\u003eThe 5 Biggest Reasons You Are Unhappy?\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003e5). You are focused on the future and the past, rather than the present.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eIn your daily thoughts, are you dwelling on past failures, or how things could have been.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eyou could have been somebody, \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eyou could have gotten that girl or guy.  Unrequieted love\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eYou are thinking if I could only re-do that part of my life, how different it would be.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eIf you are honest with yourself, you will realize that you would have made the exact same decision back then with the information that you had at the time.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eSo stop kicking yourself.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThat different decision would not have made any difference overall anyway.  It would have just given you a different set of problems.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThere are no fatal mistakes.  You are still here.  You have the rest of your life to make it the best life it can be.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eAnd if you are like most people not focused on the past, you are focused on the future.  more than the present?\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eStop it.  Bring your mind back here.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eSpend more time with your loved ones. \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThis is the biggest regret people on their deathbed.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eNo one says, I should have focused more on my job, on my career.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThey all say, I should have started this, pursued my passion.  I wish I spent more time with this person or that person. \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eInvest your time and money in your experiences – time with people you enjoy being with.  Go on that vacation with your family.  These are the memories that will last a lifetime.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003e4) You are judging others rather than learning from them.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThink about it when you judge others too quickly – think, hmm, this person is really irritating, but are they making a valid point.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eIs there something admirable about them?  What can I learn from them?  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eIf you are zoned out looking at your CNN app, you are probably getting angry about something because you are judging. \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eIf you are always on your Facebook app, you may be doing the same.  Always look at an interaction with another person as a huge opportunity to learn something from them, even if you don’t like them.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003e3) You are not taking care of yourself – mental or physical.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eyou can’t pour milk from an empty cup – take care of yourself first.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThere is a reason the airlines tell you to put on your oxygen masks first before you help your children.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eYou are no good to your child if you faint from lack of oxygen.  Breathe, do yoga, go for a walk, see a psychologist – make the investment in yourself.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eIt will pay huge dividends.  And get some sleep for heaven’s sake.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eOne of the best pieces of advice my friend gave me when I was at a low moment in my life was to exercise – go for a walk, be in nature. When your body is moving, you are learning, you are moving forward.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003e2) You are focused on getting things for yourself, rather than giving to others.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eTrue happiness comes from giving to others.  When you do that, a direct path to you opens up, and the universe showers you with abundance.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThis is the secret to being a great networker, just focus on how you can help the person you are talking to.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eDo not worry at all about how they may help you.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eWhen you are focused on helping others, people want to be your friend, they sense genuineness, and they will in turn do anything to help you.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eBefore I disclose #1 – if you like this video, please subscribe and press the bell icon, so you can be the first to see it, comment on it, and send me your feedback.\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eNow for #1\u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003e1) You are worried about things that won’t really make a difference.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eThink about the biggest thing you are worried about right now.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eNow take that worry to the worst case scenario.  \u003cbr/\u003e\u003cbr/\u003eIf that worst scenario happens, what would you do?  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